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"Once you have been around false love for awhile, you begin
thinking what it would be like to have the real thing."
As Wayne and Tamara Mitchell have written:
“People think an impostor can stand in the stead of love, but it can't. That is trying to trick yourself out of the real thing. Once you have been around false love for awhile you begin thinking what it would be like to have the real thing.
“At what point would some people tell our children that false, made-up, worked-on feelings can replace love? Forget Shakespeare and Elizabeth Barrett Browning. Children can't be allowed to see this poetry because it will touch their hearts. You don't want children to grow up thinking there is real emotion, if you are going to teach the false.”
That is the essence of what is wrong with John Gray.
Gray also recommends playing Simon Says with a man. For nine pages he explains why a woman should use “would” instead of “could” on a man. That is only one of the demeaning examples he directs at women.
Tamara says, “Can you imagine that a man won't aid you in the necessary tasks of life because you used the word 'could' instead of 'would'? So, the man you love and are married to is using a silly Simon Says game in order not to help you.
“That is so ridiculous it makes me want to urge everyone to send their copy of John Gray's book back to Harper Collins!”
• Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus by John Gray (1992). Harper Collins publisher. For “I pretended in my mind…” see page 188; for Simon Says, see pages 250-259.
• About Columbia Pacific University, its legal problems, and its promoter, clinical psychologist Les Carr, see the Point Reyes Light, December 24, 1997; December 30, 1999; January 13, 2000; March 22, 2001.
See also California Department of Consumer Affairs, Press Release, January 13, 2000; and see California Bureau for Private Postsecondary and Vocational Education, Press Release, March 12, 2001.
• More information about John Gray can also be found at: www.QuackWatch.com.