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Book reviews and recommendations from newspaper advice columnists Wayne & Tamara Mitchell.

  Book Reviews

A selection of helpful, problem-solving books, along with
 some of Wayne & Tamara's personal favorites....

 


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Child Care
Heading Home With Your Newborn
The No-Cry Nap Solution
The No-Cry Sleep Solution
The No-Cry Separation Anxiety Solution
The No-Cry Picky Eater Solution
Your Baby And Child: Birth to Age 5

Domestic Abuse
Dragonslippers
It's My Life Now

Child Abuse
Because I Remember Terror...
Charred Souls
The Body Never Lies

Sexual Abuse
Courage to Heal Workbook
Beyond Betrayal
Victims No Longer

Divorce and Starting Over
Rebuilding
Leaving Him Behind
We're Still Family

Death, Dying and Grief
Dying Well
Final Gifts
Surviving the Loss of a Love

Mental Illness
When Someone You Love...
An Unquiet Mind
The Day The Voices Stopped

Aging
Age-Defying Fitness
Carved In Sand
The Memory Bible

Living Together
Living Together, a Legal Guide

Biography
Lucky Man
America in the King Years
Mandela
My Country Versus Me
I May Be Wrong...
Leading Minds

 


"Most literary fiction reads like an endless
meditation on how many neurotics
can dance on the head of a pin."

   -- Deidre Donahue, USA TODAY

   If you spend day after day looking at car wrecks or pouring over autopsy photos, it's bound to affect your life. In time, it can make you emotionally sick. The same is true of reading.

   Some things have a certain cachet for us. We admire Tiger Woods' spirit, so we buy Nike shoes. We admire Oprah Winfrey's concern for people, so we read fiction she recommends. We think The New York Times is sophisticated, so we pay attention to their book reviews.

   Forget, for the moment, story values like plot and characterization. Forget whatever literary value a book may have. Think about what is actually there. Realize it will go around and around in your consciousness. You will have a hard time being free of it.

   Oprah's fiction mirrors what she feels about herself. She chooses from what is within, and look at her choices: the unforgiveable and the ugly. Oprah hasn't experienced her happy ending, and that is what her books lack. Dysfunctional parents, sibling incest, a man's violent thoughts about females, alcoholism, rape, neglect...

   Like Oprah's picks, books praised by critics in The New York Times often feature characters who don’t grow. At story's end, they haven't learned anything. They go through horror after horror without improving or understanding. The books simply don't feel good.

   It's as if the authors or critics are unaware of the deeper resources of human beings, those resources which lie at the center of our consciousness. They haven't peeled the onion down very far. They haven't found their way out.

   Be careful about looking at roadside accidents. Looking will make you sick and give you nightmares. There is no learning, no understanding, no healing. Just broken people.
      -- Tamara Mitchell   (October 16, 2002)